Nevermind. i found it! this is how its done if someone wonders
- turn off 'View Hidden Geometry'
- turn to 'Wireframe'
- select ALL by dragging the selection box (left to right or right to left)
- (see*) turn on 'View Hidden Geometry'
- subtract all normally visible edges by selecting ALL again by dragging the selection box while [Shift] is held down.
Now you only have hidden lines selected.