So is that relationship a bug or a feature?
In real life, the long structural members would flex rather than the actual joint stretching, or the joint would fail catastrophically. It's almost ironic that the solution to strengthening the joints for my study, extruding all the components into boards, illustrates that the hinge joint doesn't recognize the overhung load, which would cause most real joints to fail!
Oh well, it's free, and I appreciate the efforts going on to make it better. I saw a comment about a possible future feature of setting density of objects, I'm sure that would be a real help. I could then make the long rod a carbon graphite tube, and all would be well.
BTW, the work on the wiki is tremendous, congratulations to all for making the door a little wider open. The last time I played around with SP was over a year ago, and the info was much thinner.