Tipping
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@schreiberbike said:
I remember how the "rude French" changed into the nicest people after I learned that I was treating them rudely. They expect, perfectly reasonably, that they are first acknowledged as as fellow humans. It also taught me how I treated my fellow Americans like machines. I don't think most Americans see much difference between a gas station cashier and a sophisticated vending machine.
That's an interesting observation- it seems to explain why the French have gained an unjust reputation for being rude. I'be been to France several times and never found them to be more rude than any other nationality- even though I only speak very little French I found they were perfectly accomodating. Even when I had to say "Je ne parlez Francais, parlez-vous anglais?" I have never received the stereotypical French shrug, I was either answered "Yes" or "Non" with an apologetic raise of the eyebrows.
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@sorgesu said:
I reiterate: this is a stupid way of doing things and I wish there were some one to appeal to to make it different. Hell, if the government legislated a proper minimum wage for service workers, we wouldn't have to do this. No one tips me for doing the job I am suppoesed to do.
no no.. dont feel bad.. i'm pretty much on par with everything you have here.. and even worse, i tip $5 on a $25 haircut..haha.. and i definitely tend to tip more when i know i'm going to encounter this person again in hopes that it'll do something for me.. and at the very least, make me look good
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Susan,
I actually started to type a list like some of the others have, but then it occured to me....all you need to know about tipping is in a favorite movie of mine.....My Blue Heaven (Steve Martin)
Hope you can find the time to see it!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/My_Blue_Heaven_%281990_film%29 -
About respect for others:
Eleven years ago, I moved to the South after living in the North for the first 50 years of my life. A few years after I moved, I visited friends in my former home town. At lunch, they were remarkably rude, not only to the server, but also to each other. They treated the server as a "servant;" no "please," no "Thank you," just indifference. They talked all over each other, not allowing anyone to finish a thought.
I had to wonder, "Was I like that when I lived here?" I couldn't wait to get back to the South, where courtesy is the grease that lubricates almost all interactions, even though it's often false courtesy. Nevertheless, I can no longer imagine not saying please and thank you to someone who is doing me a service, no matter how small. A tip recognizes both good service and a pleasant and helpful attitude. I tip in proportion to how I am treated.
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