I think he means more that in the real world, if you had for example a hinged joint capable of supporting 1 tonne of loading and still continuing to pivot on its axis, it would do that up to 1 tonne. In SP joints tend to pull apart and have an artificial elasticity which allows them to slip out of axis or break completely.
I can't find a way to get around this yet either; what may be needed is an "absolute strength" type setting for joints and perhaps also a power/force rating for motors, pistons etc. Basically put, a "don't allow joints to shift out of their axis or past min/max bounds, no matter what". In addition a power control to ramp up the load that a powered joint can shift.
I don't know much about the underlying physics libraries used in SP but such a thing must be at least possible, if not implemented within the libraries.
SP is great though, please don't misunderstand my post anyone - big respect to CPhillips for this amazing software!